Hello everyone and welcome to the latest edition of the Asperwhat?! series that I write! Like the image above? Thought I’d try to make my own and make it unique somewhat, ok so it was a first time try so let me know what you think because I would love to create an image for each new blog for the Asperwhat?! series, that would be really cool in my eyes!
Today’s blog is all about Autism and being social, now I know what everyone says about these two and that they don’t always go hand in hand! I hear it all of the time, the negativity of it all because apparently and this is the kicker here people….anyone with Autism struggles to be social?! Really, is that so? Well yes, I can’t exactly deny that but that’s not my problem…what my beef is with this accusation is that many people take that and assume that it’s impossible for anyone with Autism to socialize at all!
People with Autism can struggle to be social but that doesn’t mean by any standard that it’s impossible! Why some people run with this and lose the plot when they find out I have friends and have Autism bloody baffles me, why is it such a big deal to you that you will go so far as call me a liar? It’s almost like once someone has been labelled, that is where they have to stay, they are never allowed out of the box or they never had the issue in the first place?! I am baffled, absolutely baffled by that! When I had no friends in school, everyone seemed to make it out like it was all I deserved because I was weird and never thought my actions through yet in college, I was able to make those friends and everything was fine until others discover this and it just can’t register in their heads that this was possible at all…maybe that just means that not everyone on this planet is an asshole that enjoys putting people they consider vulnerable down everyday! Almost as if they are compensating for something by doing that!
While people with Autism can be social, doesn’t mean that it’s easy…while I have friends in my life, I have often in the past struggled to maintain and keep friends, that was once my weakness as I would always be too trustworthy and often taken advantage off by others who picked this up whereas I never did until it was too late! I guess with experience we grow and learn but the lessons of the past must never be forgotten, they must always be used as a guiding light to make the future a more happier place!
Just because a few people are able to make and maintain relationships doesn’t mean that everyone can…many struggle to make friends and this can be for many reasons which I won’t go into because I really only mention experiences I have because I don’t feel right trying to mention other things that can happen that I haven’t myself experienced! True, I have gone through a period where I couldn’t make any friends before but it’s been many years since those times, it’s almost beyond distant in my memories now, although I might briefly mention that it was a very dark and lonely time, one that I would not wish on anyone and for anyone reading this and doesn’t have a friend…it can change, you can make one…it is not impossible, never give up!
If I have learned anything over the years in being social, it’s that you should never change for anyone, always be yourselves because if you have to change just to be friends with someone then it isn’t worth it because it’s like they are saying you are not good enough the way you are, another thing is never take your friends for granted because one day they might not be there anymore and you’ll be left with nothing but regret! And finally, for the love of all that is good in this life, never be afraid to step out of your comfort zone sometimes, who knows…you might just feel that you don’t need to go back in!
Have a good one everyone, This is your DailyPickMeUp!