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I just cannot look at anyone straight in the eyes for very long, if not at all! I struggle so much to do this and I think for me anyway, it’s because I am afraid to properly look, in case it’s not the reaction that I want. I am always trying to make myself look at someone and be able to do so for a decent amount of time, although I don’t want to creep anyone out by constantly staring at them but how else can you learn to feel comfortable with looking directly at another human being, other than practice which makes perfect.

Anyone else feel like the ‘eye staring’ is a massive burden to your daily life? For example, if you have a job that requires you to deal with the general public everyday then you will have to look at them but how you do feel having to do that? Does it scare you? What is it about looking at someone in the eyes that scares some people so much? I don’t really know what it is that makes it hard for me but all I know is that after a few seconds, I want to look away, maybe down at the ground or to the side but I feel like I need to or I’ll freak out but I have no idea why that is!

My girlfriend calls my eyes ‘The window to the soul’ they show you what a person is really like apparently because they are the most honest bit about us, they express emotions all the time and a stare can tell someone how you are feeling, whether that is angry, sad or over the moon. Some might not have any issues with eye contact, whereas many will, me included to be honest. If I could go through a whole week and be able to not have any issues with looking at someone without feeling awkward, then I would be a very happy man but will it ever change? Will I ever feel more comfortable looking at someone else without feeling scared? I sure hope so but like I said before, practice makes perfect.

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1 Comment

  1. Yeah. It took me maybe a decade and a half, maybe two of constant practice to desensitize myself, but it worked. Eye gaze is no big deal now. Then I had to learn to glance away every three to five seconds or so to keep from freaking out the one I’ve locked gaze on. How the majority of people learn that balancing act without a lot of sweat still confounds me.

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