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This one is weird to me because all I hear sometimes is how hard it must be for someone who looks after someone with Autism and I just roll my eyes because as good as it is that people are willing to do that, put up with Meltdowns and breakdowns, it’s a lot worse for the person who actually has Autism! This is by no means, no disrespect to anyone but in my opinion, it would be worse for the person who has Autism than someone who has to look after them….far worse. Yes, that person might have to give up free time and such to do so but do you think the person with Autism wants it that way, did they ask for things to turn out this way?
My question is this one…why do some people claim that they understand Autism when they don’t actually have it? I mean, that’s crazy…many people don’t fully understand it, yet they have it! I’m always learning something new and to be honest, the constant worrying and meltdowns isn’t what I would want to happen but I don’t have a choice. Why do I see people who might look after someone with Autism getting so much sympathy for it? Ok so it’s understandable because in some cases it can be incredibly difficult and has to be done every single day but…that doesn’t mean that they fully understand what Autism actually is!
Not a shout out to anyone but I just see it sometimes, how does someone get that much sympathy for it though….why do some people see looking after someone with Autism a massive chore sometimes. In some cases it is but when I hear someone say this in the street
”I have a child with Autism….sometimes I wish I hadn’t”
It annoys me! Because some people view Autism as a whole as in we are all the same….drives me crazy that so when you hear people with quotes like that, it can be worrying sometimes….although I’m sure the majority are not like that at all…one person is still enough to worry me somewhat.
When I was young, I was told that I needed a lot of attention and that my older brother somewhat resented me for it…I felt bad for all of that but everyone would focus more on my parents for having to do that…like it was a nuisance or something…I’m sure that would make many people with Autism feel a bit bad, like a burden!
To have Autism, is something that no one can understand..unless they have it themselves! I’m sorry but no matter how much you think you know what it’s like because you know someone with Autism, you actually don’t and you can’t ever truly ‘know’ what it is really like, you can only have a bit of a clue, that’s it! No offense but how can you really get it…you can have an idea about it but compared to someone who has it, you can’t come anywhere close.
It’s not something that is simple to understand, it’s a complicated and complex thing that you can only understand once you go through the constant
- Feeling like you have no friends
That’s just some examples but the amount of times I hear people claim that they ‘get Autism’ because someone they know has it, I roll my eyes because it’s just not as true as you say it is….it can’t be because you can’t know what it’s like if you don’t have Autism. I understand the emotions and support that others give individuals that have these things but I would not understand what it’s actually like to ‘have it’ it’s a completely different ball game to actually have Autism then to know someone who has it and say help someone who has a meltdown, what about the person having the meltdown? I’m sure it’s far worse for them than the person helping out!
I guess the point is, remember that as hard as it can be to look after someone with Autism…it’s harder for someone with Autism and as for understanding Autism, I just don’t think you can truly understand it, unless you actually have it!